Life Has Its Challenges

I was walking like many tourists with my former college roommate ah and oohing the various monuments, parks, places of worship, in a country where forced marriages still exist as well as female genital mutilation and, a place which has other trammeling laws. I must confess that I have visited more than one such a country mostly in the Middle East and in Africa. 

My former college roommate obviously grateful for our years together in college turned to me and said, “Just think we could have been born here.”  

Life never guaranteed anyone an easy life. The dangers just like a lion waiting to pounce are there the minute we are born. Yet, while living in the USA, a country where it is self-understood that girls have the liberty to decide who they will marry, what jobs they will have and what higher education they may choose, there still is abuse and rape and lower pay for women in the workplace. Girls  as well as boys may fall in the wrong hands and be abused, misguided and in some cases fall victim to racism, anger, poverty, angling them into the wrong direction and often into prison. If we take these thoughts a step further we should take into account that we fortunately have in the United States laws, agencies,  non-profits all meant to protect us plus voting rights allowing us to implement change.  

The cards that fate dealt us, what we experienced in our youth, will determine how we writers interpret what we, as individual adults, now see.   It indisputably  will govern from what point of view we pen essays. 

Therapy: Forget The Couch Think Horses

Edith Lynn Beer special to the online magazine https://www.prforpeople.com/life-style/health

Abigail Hornik, the founder of Chinook Horses: Changing Lives Through Equine Partnerships, has loved horses all her life. It always has been a “must have” sport even while she was working in New York City as an online advertising and marketing person. Taking a break from her demanding career, Abigail came to Montana in 2001 to breed Spanish Mustangs and work with children on the Blackfeet Reservation. A year later, she met her husband, a native Montanan. Abigail fell in love not only with her husband but also with Montana. For 8 years, she owned and designed for her high-end home accessories company, WesternWare Goods with an equine theme appearing in the majority of her product line. In her free time, she did dressage and jumping with her two treasured horses. Observing her horses and fellow riders she realized more and more that horses are amazing creatures who take in and respond to situations, and because, they live in the wild in groups, naturally demarcate relationships.

In 2014, Abigail returned to her passion and prepared to open, Chinook Horses: Changing Lives Through Equine Partnerships. Listed today as founder and director, Abigail earned certifications from the recognized Equine Assisted Growth and Learning Association, Inc. (EAGALA) and Equine Specialist in Mental Health and Learning & Therapeutic Riding Instructor from the Professional Association of Therapeutic Horsemanship International and is pursuing further affidavits.

Abigail likes to describe the operation of Chinook Horses as a four pointed star. There are, of course, the client(s) and the horses. The other point represents the certified equine therapist. The fourth point represents a licensed therapist and/or special education professional.

Clients do not ride the horses but interact with the horses at will on the ground which allows difficult, anxious, insecure or resistant clients to approach and reveal their problems in a different way. The therapists are in the arena with the client(s) but invite the client(s) to interact and observe the horses. Clients who feel useless because their condition doesn’t permit them to hold a job, all of a sudden develop a sense of themselves in relation to the horses.

Robert Bakko, a licensed clinical professional for 42 years, over a year ago got certified in the EAGALA modality. Bob finds that you can observe in one session many aspects important to the therapy.

For example, Bob and Abigail prepared a designated area in the rink to which a horse had to be lead. It was a mindful exercise. A couple in therapy trying to improve their relationship were asked to lead a horse through the course. It was how the husband and wife each undertook the problem that revealed each one’s attitude and solving-problem methods.

Kelly Melius, whose specialty is Autism and other special needs, is a licensed and certified PLAY (Play and Language for Autistic Youngsters) Project and Autism Specialist. Kelly explains that allowing these children and young adults to interact with horses teaches them leadership qualities, and the all important social thinking rules and tools. The group is taught the all important “think with your eyes,” “Start positive chain reactions,” “keep your body in the group,” and “whole body listening,” and “follow the leader.” For instance, this group was asked to lead a horse through an obstacle course without a lead-rope and halter. After many tries, a group discussion on how to do it ensued. Finally, the group decided that they would get the horse to follow one of the participants by shaking a bucket as if food were in it. The designated leader, a 13-year-old boy, got the horse to move by shaking the bucket and another 18-year-old young man provided support. Everyone in the group felt that each person had helped to meet the challenge.

For more information visit http://www.chinookhorses.org/ To find a group in your area go to http://home.eagala.org/find


In America, The Vicious Cycle of War 

Special to The Denver Post

At a very young age, wholly unintended, I learned that no matter how well we feel protected, war is a vicious circle. 

My parents had been born in the late 19th century in the Bukovina, in the Eastern part of the Austro-Hungarian Empire, where they had suffered through the first World War. When it was over, my parents moved to Switzerland, where my brother and I were born.

When Hitler came to power in Germany, my mother questioned if Switzerland would be able to stay neutral. She was not going to live through another war. And thus, in 1939, we emigrated to America and settled in Woodmere, a small suburb on Long Island. Most of our family had stayed behind in France, Romania and Russia.

On Sundays, the cousins who also had fled to the United States would visit us on Long Island. Invariably they would discuss their wonderful youth in the Bukovina, which had been destroyed in World War I. My mother described the hardships, how her mother had mixed sawdust with their flour rations to make it go further. Her parents didn’t eat breakfast so there be more for the children. Our father would recount to us how during that war, his father, a flour miller, forfeited money and bartered his services for food.

Then they would discuss what was going on during World War II. There were rumors of horrible concentration camps in Europe. My father got a postcard from France that his sister had been deported to Auschwitz. From the time I was 8, my older brother and I would listen to these stories. I remember thinking that these were their stories, not mine. That I would never have such worries. I was now in America.

Fortunately, quite a few of our family back in Europe had managed to survive the war. Thus, in the summer of 1947, my parents booked us passage on the Mauretania to Paris, where we were to meet relatives we hardly remembered.

The ship was glorious, with its movies, swimming pool and nightly dances. Most of the passengers were like us, Europeans who had spent the war in the United States but who could not wait until Europe recovered from the war. They wanted to see their relatives and friends, and hoped that maybe there would be something left of their old home. But I grew up in America; I was not a part of their stories.

On the day we arrived in Cherbourg, the captain informed us that because the port had been bombed, we would be transported ashore via tenders. The passengers crowded the railing on deck for our first glimpse of the Europe I had heard my parents talk about — the Europe where children were polite, where the culture was beyond comparison, where the cuisine and wine were excellent. It was also the Europe my family and I had been glad to leave in 1939. 

As we got off the tender, we stared in silence at the bombed buildings. There was nothing left, just open cellars and jagged, broken walls. We then boarded a train to Paris, still in silence. We looked at the countryside with its ripped-up roads, burned-out barns, exposed staircases leading to nowhere. 

In Paris, a cab took us to the Hotel Regina, an old world hotel near the Louvre. But there was no traffic. Paris seemed silent.

After we unpacked, Mama produced a very large, round corn bread from our deli in Woodmere. “There is really no food available,” Papa said, “and in the morning we’ll be glad to have that with our tea.” The bread had been packed in layers of wax paper and linen towels. 

“They have no bread yet?” I exclaimed. “They are eating ground- up rats,” my father answered.

We had dinner in a vegetarian restaurant. In the bathroom, neatly cut-up newspapers took the place of toilet paper. 

The next morning, Papa ordered tea for all of us, then noticed our deli bread. In the center was a large hole where the rats had come in the night and eaten. Papa cut around the hole and gave us each a slice. 

We spent our days with about 18 of our European relatives, ages 10 to 70, all of them underweight, pale and nervous. They told us how they had managed to stay alive, often hiding, sleeping three in a bed, starving, freezing and paying people to help them survive. I went with some younger cousins to the Louvre. They talked of the relatives who had died in labor camps or been gassed to death in concentration camps. I comforted myself by thinking, “This can never happen in America.”

We discussed how America would help Europe. Our parents talked about the Marshall Plan, which would give Europe all the food it needed.

Finally, we took a train to Switzerland, which had in the end managed to stay neutral. The people looked happy and healthy. The cities were clean. Our friends told us how, while they were cut off from imports, they had made do with what was available. I kept saying to myself, “I can’t wait to get back to the States where we have no shortages.”

Before heading back to New York, we stopped in Paris to say goodbye to our family, who saw us off at the boat train to Cherbourg. As the conductor yelled “Parti, Parti,” we threw kisses at our relatives from the open windows.

In our compartment was a somber-looking man wearing an old- fashioned dark pin-striped suit. The passport he was holding had a diplomatic insignia on it and the name of a country I could not decipher. Was it Czechoslovakian? Hungarian? 

As the train neared Cherbourg, I saw khaki-colored boxes neatly arranged for shipment, or perhaps for distribution in Europe.

“That’s the Marshall plan!” I exclaimed, full of pride. “We in America know how to get things done. There will be no more shortages in Europe.” Our diplomat, who had sat without speaking throughout the trip while we had chatted merrily, said softly, “That’s not the Marshall Plan. Those are the American dead being shipped back.”

We looked out the window again and recognized the boxes as coffins. None of us spoke as the train moved very slowly, as if to honor the dead. As far as the eye could see there were khaki-colored coffins. 

My chest tightened. I tried but could not comfort myself with the words, “In America, we . . . .”

We, too, are affected by the vicious circle.


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My brother and I were born in the frenetic pre-World War II era in Zurich, Switzerland, the German speaking part of the country. Even though Switzerland hoped to be neutral quite a few of its Swiss-German citizens admired Hitler. Some Jews in Zurich, horrified by the anti-Semitism, resettled themselves in the French speaking part of Switzerland, known to be more open minded.

My parents came originally from the Bukovina, a country which before World War I belonged to the Austro-Hungarian empire. At the end of the First World War with the implementation of the Treaty of St. Germain, the Bukovina was given to Rumania.

As a young man my father had not wanted to fight in the First World War and had escaped from the crumbling Austro-Hungarian empire to Zurich where he became a citizen. He later married my mother who came from the same part of the Bukovina as he. The young people in the family

had for the most part left the Bukovina to seek their fortunes in Berlin, Vienna, and Paris. Thus when the Nazis came to power cousins, nieces and nephews got in touch with my parents to help them escape.

The Swiss who treated their own Jews honorably were troubled that so many neighboring Jews were trying to cross the border to safety and thus passed a series of laws which limited their entrance to Switzerland.

My mother had a very simple technique for getting people across the border. She told her relatives to take tour buses to Zurich, get off and come to our house. Since they were illegally at our house my parents did not want people to know we had “guests”. I was a big chatter box.

My mother found out that a child did not have to go to school in Switzerland until age seven. Rather than teach me to be secretive she kept me home. My brother, who was older went to school.

As refugees arrived, often unexpectedly, more places would be set at our dining table. To make more room I sat frequently with my mother at the head of the table and shared her salad plate to allow space for our two dinner plates.

My bedroom had twin beds. I would regularly go to bed alone and wake up to muffled crying in the next bed.

It was our father’s job to find visas for these refugees. No one ever stayed long. My father as head of the household could have been arrested for harboring refugees. While our father never involved us children I knew whenever his forehead was damp with perspiration

that things were not good. To this day I don’t know how our father got people across the border. Some went to Spain, others to what is today Israel, some to Australia, Costa Rica, and New York. He used every means to get them out. He had one niece who had as a teenage idealist gone off in 1918 to Palestine to help build a homeland for the Jews. She came back to Vienna with a child and a husband. The husband left her to seek his fortune in Australia. After a few years he ceased to write. When Hitler came my father made it his business to locate him. Not an easy task since the man had, unbeknownst to the family, changed his name. How my father found him is a mystery, but his niece and her child had a visa to Australia.

The only real relief we had from the refugees was in the Alps where we went to ski. My mother often left me in the mountains in the care of a nanny who I adored. The Alps were a wonderful escape: no talk of gas masks, we skied better than the German tourists who might or might not have been Nazis and the radio transmission which relayed Hitler’s speeches, was poor.

Some of the refugees left a lasting impact on us. One of these was the Austrian poet, author and playwright, Richard Beer-Hofmann (not a relative), who had had his books burned in the public squares of Germany in 1933. His papers are today collected at Harvard University. He had come

with his sick wife to Switzerland before going on to New York. Our parents, who actively donated money to Swiss literary magazines founded for the displaced German/Austrian writers, invited him up to our house to tea. Mama had explained to us that Mr. Beer-Hofmann had written a beautiful poem, entitled Schlaflied Fuer Miriam (Lullaby for Miriam). The poem, named for his daughter and written at the turn of the century shortly after her birth, chants about the dark origin of life and its unknown end. Mama recited in German, “We are but banks of a river and deep in us flows blood of the past streaming on to the future, blood of our fathers full of unrest and pride. All our ancestors are in us. Who can feel himself alone?” (Translation from the book, Richard Beer-Hofmann by Solomon Liptzin; Bloch Publishing Co., New York, 1936, p.14)

In the summer I was inevitably dislodged from my bedroom on the second floor to the third floor, where the maids were housed. The couple who received my room were Mr. and Mrs. Abraham Menachem Mendel Ussishkin, who came together with Dr. and Mrs. Chaim Weizman to Zurich for the Zionist Congress in Basel. The Chaim Weizmans stayed with another private family in Zurich. They were among the founding fathers of Israel.

Not knowing if the Germans would invade them the Swiss government urged its citizens to hoard such staples as canned sardines and oil, and to practice blackout. Our window curtains were replaced with black velvet ones. Our house center hall had three exceedingly long stained

window panes which could not be blacked out forcing us to walk at night through the hall in the dark.

On the day of the Anschluss, the annexation of Austria to Germany in 1938, my mother took a train to Vienna against my father’s wishes. She planned to get her brother and his wife out. Her brother, because he had been an officer in the Austrian Army, could not understand

why the Nazis would not respect him. Once in Vienna my mother got him and his wife out on a tourist bus to Zurich. In the meantime back in Zurich I heard my father screaming on the phone to my mother in Vienna to get out of Vienna because her Swiss passport might not protect her. It was evening and I was standing in the dark hall looking at the stained window panes. I realized I might lose my mother.

I began to scream. My governess came and led me to my bedroom. Hoping to calm me she read to me Hansel and Gretel.

My mother in Vienna went to the railroad station to take the train back to Zurich. At the last moment two children, cousins of ours, implored to be taken out of Vienna. My mother had the picture of my brother and me in her passport as was customary in those days.

The next morning when I woke up I heard my mother’s voice. She was proudly telling my father how she had covered both children, a boy and a girl, who were at least five years older than my brother or I, with blankets on the train ride and told them to pretend to sleep. When the border patrol came she asked him not to wake the children.

I looked at the two new children, our latest refugees. They were, like all the other children who came, immaculately dressed as if to say we are worth something, take good care of us.

Now that I was seven my mother could no longer keep me out of school. Like any child I was excited the first day my mother took me to school. Herr Muller, a tall, austere looking man, presided over our class. Before I had even made any serious mistakes, he flung my copybook down the center aisle separating two rows of desks. His aim was quite good. I had to get up to retrieve my copy book while he loudly berated me for being stupid. Other times, he yanked my hair until it hurt. Feeling humiliated I stayed by myself at recess. I never told my parents.

I had a lot of stomach aches. The refugees at our house, wanting to be helpful, read to me. Perhaps, my mother realizing that my life in school like the political atmosphere was not neutral, made arrangements for me to stay up in the Alps for the winter. In the spring I came back to Zurich and my nemesis, Mr. Muller. As if wanting to make up for my brief absence, his harassing increased. Again, I said nothing to my parents.

Our parents started to talk about Amerika. They served for breakfast, Corn Flakes declaring it as American. My brother was reading Karl May who wrote about American Indians and took to chasing me with a Tomahawk. I didn’t like the Tomahawk nor how my Corn Flakes became mush when I poured our unpasteurized boiled milk on top of them.

On a crisp September day in 1939 as I was leaving for school my mother told me that I should tell my teacher that I was going on a long trip and taking my school books with me. I would return them when we came back. My only clue to where we might be traveling were the corn flakes.

At the end of the school day, as the other children ran out of the classroom, I gave Herr Muller my mother’s message. With a smirk he declared as if he had just solved a puzzle, “You’re Jewish and you’re afraid.” No good-bye and no good luck wishes.

Because Switzerland was practicing blackout we were driven to the railroad station without the use of headlights to catch the midnight train to London. In France the train would be put on a ferry and we would wake up in London. We crossed the borders easily with our Swiss passports.

Our father had obtained for us, like he had for so many of the refugees, visitors’ visas to see the World’s Fair in New York. Our parents even as Swiss citizens, because they were born in East Europe, were not eligible for an immigration visa.

The atmosphere was tense in London. Expecting to be bombed children with big placards stating their names were being sent to the country. My brother and I clung close to our parents. We were put to bed at night partly clothed because our parents had been told we might have to

run to shelters if war was declared. Our parents trying to entertain us took us to the London Zoo. Our mother walked us to the Panda’s cage and said, “Tell him you’ll bring his regards to his cousin in the Bronx Zoo.” All the animals sounded unusually loud. I looked around. We were the only people in the Zoo.

On the day France and Germany declared war we left Southampton, England for new York on the S.S. Ile de France. The Germans were looking to torpedo us. Radar was not yet in use. Our captain after showing us our lifeboat stations told us our best defense was for the boat to stay in the fog and rough seas. Strict blackout was practiced. My mother and I threw up most of the voyage. Finally we had smooth sailing and all four of us went up on the deck. The sun was shining. We leaned over the railing. People around us were yelling, “There’s Long Island, Brooklyn.” In the distance was a statue of a lady holding up her arm surely welcoming us. The custom officers, happy that the Germans had not torpedoed us, greeted us with big smiles. My brother declared, “There are no Indians here. It looks like Europe.” I looked at all the happy people and decided right then and there that I liked this country.

copyrighted Edith Lynn Beer


In America, the vicious cycle of war 

Special to The Denver Post

At a very young age, wholly unintended, I learned that no matter how well we feel protected, war is a vicious circle. 

My parents had been born in the late 19th century in the Bukovina, in the Eastern part of the Austro-Hungarian Empire, where they had suffered through the first World War. When it was over, my parents moved to Switzerland, where my brother and I were born.

When Hitler came to power in Germany, my mother questioned if Switzerland would be able to stay neutral. She was not going to live through another war. And thus, in 1939, we emigrated to America and settled in Woodmere, a small suburb on Long Island. Most of our family had stayed behind in France, Romania and Russia.

On Sundays, the cousins who also had fled to the United States would visit us on Long Island. Invariably they would discuss their wonderful youth in the Bukovina, which had been destroyed in World War I. My mother described the hardships, how her mother had mixed sawdust with their flour rations to make it go further. Her parents didn’t eat breakfast so there be more for the children. Our father would recount to us how during that war, his father, a flour miller, forfeited money and bartered his services for food.

Then they would discuss what was going on during World War II. There were rumors of horrible concentration camps in Europe. My father got a postcard from France that his sister had been deported to Auschwitz. From the time I was 8, my older brother and I would listen to these stories. I remember thinking that these were their stories, not mine. That I would never have such worries. I was now in America.

Fortunately, quite a few of our family back in Europe had managed to survive the war. Thus, in the summer of 1947, my parents booked us passage on the Mauretania to Paris, where we were to meet relatives we hardly remembered.

The ship was glorious, with its movies, swimming pool and nightly dances. Most of the passengers were like us, Europeans who had spent the war in the United States but who could not wait until Europe recovered from the war. They wanted to see their relatives and friends, and hoped that maybe there would be something left of their old home. But I grew up in America; I was not a part of their stories.

On the day we arrived in Cherbourg, the captain informed us that because the port had been bombed, we would be transported ashore via tenders. The passengers crowded the railing on deck for our first glimpse of the Europe I had heard my parents talk about — the Europe where children were polite, where the culture was beyond comparison, where the cuisine and wine were excellent. It was also the Europe my family and I had been glad to leave in 1939. 

As we got off the tender, we stared in silence at the bombed buildings. There was nothing left, just open cellars and jagged, broken walls. We then boarded a train to Paris, still in silence. We looked at the countryside with its ripped-up roads, burned-out barns, exposed staircases leading to nowhere. 

In Paris, a cab took us to the Hotel Regina, an old world hotel near the Louvre. But there was no traffic. Paris seemed silent.

After we unpacked, Mama produced a very large, round corn bread from our deli in Woodmere. “There is really no food available,” Papa said, “and in the morning we’ll be glad to have that with our tea.” The bread had been packed in layers of wax paper and linen towels. 

“They have no bread yet?” I exclaimed. “They are eating ground- up rats,” my father answered.

We had dinner in a vegetarian restaurant. In the bathroom, neatly cut-up newspapers took the place of toilet paper. 

The next morning, Papa ordered tea for all of us, then noticed our deli bread. In the center was a large hole where the rats had come in the night and eaten. Papa cut around the hole and gave us each a slice. 

We spent our days with about 18 of our European relatives, ages 10 to 70, all of them underweight, pale and nervous. They told us how they had managed to stay alive, often hiding, sleeping three in a bed, starving, freezing and paying people to help them survive. I went with some younger cousins to the Louvre. They talked of the relatives who had died in labor camps or been gassed to death in concentration camps. I comforted myself by thinking, “This can never happen in America.”

We discussed how America would help Europe. Our parents talked about the Marshall Plan, which would give Europe all the food it needed.

Finally, we took a train to Switzerland, which had in the end managed to stay neutral. The people looked happy and healthy. The cities were clean. Our friends told us how, while they were cut off from imports, they had made do with what was available. I kept saying to myself, “I can’t wait to get back to the States where we have no shortages.”

Before heading back to New York, we stopped in Paris to say goodbye to our family, who saw us off at the boat train to Cherbourg. As the conductor yelled “Parti, Parti,” we threw kisses at our relatives from the open windows.

In our compartment was a somber-looking man wearing an old- fashioned dark pin-striped suit. The passport he was holding had a diplomatic insignia on it and the name of a country I could not decipher. Was it Czechoslovakian? Hungarian? 

As the train neared Cherbourg, I saw khaki-colored boxes neatly arranged for shipment, or perhaps for distribution in Europe.

“That’s the Marshall plan!” I exclaimed, full of pride. “We in America know how to get things done. There will be no more shortages in Europe.” Our diplomat, who had sat without speaking throughout the trip while we had chatted merrily, said softly, “That’s not the Marshall Plan. Those are the American dead being shipped back.”

We looked out the window again and recognized the boxes as coffins. None of us spoke as the train moved very slowly, as if to honor the dead. As far as the eye could see there were khaki-colored coffins. 

My chest tightened. I tried but could not comfort myself with the words, “In America, we . . . .”

We, too, are affected by the vicious circle.